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The Casual "I Love You"

When does saying "I love you" get to be so casual. It seems we say it more out of habit then because we truly want to tell each other that we do. Oddly if it isn't said we end up thinking something is wrong. I've gotten to the point where I'm thinking if I don't say it to her everyday, will she still believe I love her? She says she wants to hear me tell her that I love her everyday, but it sounds so casual now. If she doesn't tell me that she loves me I usually suspect something's wrong too. By the way this is a long distance relationship. What do you think?

Natalie

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Dear Natalie

It's funny that you mentioned that, I've often thought about this myself. The first time it was said it seemed to have so much meaning and emotion, but as the days went on it seems to become more of the norm. It always amazed me on how unimportant it seemed at times and yet if it wasn't said, suddenly it was missed and insecurities would arise. I believe this concept is generally derived from the seeking of validation that everything is going smoothly. Especially in long distance relationships where you can't read body language, hearing the simple words "I love you" at the end of the conversation generally confirms that the other person is still happy with the relationship. As silly as it may seem to constantly reinforce this idea that the love is still there, I think it's a beautiful tradition to upkeep. You hear it everyday and you take it for granted, but when it isn't said you really miss it. A verbal hug, so to speak.

Wishing you the best with your relationship

-Nate Lovestruck

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