When to give in? Should I Confess My
feelings? |
Originally I starting "seeing" this guy to get over
someone. I made it apparent from the start that I didn't want more, to
the point of being a complete bi*ch. Slowly but surely he got to me, and
now things seem too complicated. I find myself liking him more then I'm
comfortable feeling, which makes me want to eliminate all contact. I
don't know how he feels about me but I refuse to fess up my feelings
first. Although sometimes I suspect he feels the same.
Ryn |
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Dear Ryn
It's funny how the mind rarely follows any set directions, the
subconscious kicks in and does what it sees fit. Getting attached
to someone you originally labeled as nothing more then a fling can be a
troublesome problem to deal with.
If you're scared of being the first one to confess just play it cool,
analyze the situation further and try to find out if the feeling is
truly mutual. As much as you're scared of your feelings and think that
cutting off all contact might be the best course of action, you may want
to give it a second thought. You never know what level of happiness may
have been capable should things have gone further. You don't want to
look back at this moment later in life and wonder what could have
happened.
If you legitably think you like this person my best advice would be to
just go with the flow for a bit. Feel things out and enjoy yourself, if
he has deeper feelings for you he's bound to slip up eventually. Let's
face it us men think we're secretive and slick but when it comes to
women we tend to be quite transparent. If you find yourself
getting impatient in finding out his true intentions, another idea would
be to turn up the volume a bit. Make hints, show more affection (instead
of the ruthless bitchy side) and make your decision on how reacts to the
test.
All in all it is a tough situation, and in the end there's no amount of
advice that will fully solve it. You'll have to make a decision to either
cut it off, wait it out, or confess your thoughts. Go with your gut
instinct as it is usually the correct one.
Best of Luck
-Nate Lovestruck
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